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Open Question: Do people ever get back together after a NASTY breakup where they've been cheated on, verbally abused & dumped?

He cheated on me & then made the cheater his new girlfriend. Wouldnt you be jealous too, if just 30 days after you broke up, he drove 20 hours with his new girlfriends family to florida? We dated "on-and-off" for a year and he knew i fell in love with him. I only dumped him because he wasnt spending ANY time with me, then 5 minutes later i get a text message saying " i cant lie. i cheated on you last night. please dont hate me" He didnt have to tell me that, but he WANTED to hurt me i guess? The whole time we dated he said " i would never cheat on you. Cheating is wrong. I would dump you first before i would ever cheat on you." - -he was saying this WHILE he was cheating on me. Actually, i was probably the "other woman" all along. Anyways, the very next day, less than 24 hours after i dumped him, he had a new "girlfriend." It was the same girl he cheated on me with. This girl was probably his primary girl to begin with. Since our breakup, they've been spending every night sleeping together in the same bed, and having sex; however, when I was his"girlfriend" i never got to sleep in his house, let alone to spend the entire night in his bed. Ofcourse i feel awful when i drive by and see "her" car on his driveway at 4am. We became friends with benefits after we broke up, so technicaly hes cheating on this new person. Anyways, they have only been "together" now for 30 days, but he is already driving to Florida with his new girlfriends family to spend 10 days!! Thats Lots of bonding time. Why am I so jealous and mad?? They're "bonding" while I'm all alone like I never existed? I feel abandoned. My ex says he's "in love with" his new girlfriend (after just 30 days), and that he never loved me... even though he would say "I love you" when we dated. He is 17 and I'm older; however, isnt this one of the most vicious things you've ever heard... "sex with you used to be good at the begining, but then it became disgusting. You have no experience having sex, and you couldnt pay me enough money to have sex with you because you're disgusting. And you're horrible at giving head. Your personality sucks, and you keep your eyes open when you kiss." And this is from someone who KNOWS im "in love with" him, and have been for over a year. Isnt that vicious? You know he's going to call in a few months, around September when his new girlfriend goes off to college, asking to get back together. I dont know WHY he would call, but he will. What would you do if he calls, considering the way he treated me? I know hes not sitting at home pining away for me. Hes out having fun , moving on without me, and not giving me a second thought..while im home being miserable. During our most recent relationship he was spending every night with "friends" and i would only see him after 2am when he was drunk. When we were breaking up I told him i wanted to be first place, not second place, and he said "youre more like 5th or 6th place." He wouldnt spend 1 night with me to go to an amusement park 3 hours away , but he has no problem taking 10 days off work to drive 20 hours to florida each way. Why am I so jealous and mad? They're bonding for 10 days!! They're having breakfast, lunch, dinner ,and sleeping together and having fun. Thats a LOAD of "together" time. I feel like trash and so abandoned. It's like I never existed. He says he never loved me. He only "loved" me as a person, but not romantically. That's why he's doing all this stuff with his new girlfriend and not me. He is 17 and bipolar. You have to keep in mind that this isnt a casual "boyfriend-of-the-month" for me. I fell in love with him and have been over a year. HE asked me to be his girlfriend. He mistreated me like hell. It's too easy for people to just say "MOVE ON" as if i can just turn off my love like a light switch. Your thoughts....

Open Question: Do people ever get back together after a NASTY breakup where they've been cheated on, verbally abused & dumped?

He cheated on me & then made the cheater his new girlfriend. Wouldnt you be jealous too, if just 30 days after you broke up, he drove 20 hours with his new girlfriends family to florida? We dated "on-and-off" for a year and he knew i fell in love with him. I only dumped him because he wasnt spending ANY time with me, then 5 minutes later i get a text message saying " i cant lie. i cheated on you last night. please dont hate me" He didnt have to tell me that, but he WANTED to hurt me i guess? The whole time we dated he said " i would never cheat on you. Cheating is wrong. I would dump you first before i would ever cheat on you." - -he was saying this WHILE he was cheating on me. Actually, i was probably the "other woman" all along. Anyways, the very next day, less than 24 hours after i dumped him, he had a new "girlfriend." It was the same girl he cheated on me with. This girl was probably his primary girl to begin with. Since our breakup, they've been spending every night sleeping together in the same bed, and having sex; however, when I was his"girlfriend" i never got to sleep in his house, let alone to spend the entire night in his bed. Ofcourse i feel awful when i drive by and see "her" car on his driveway at 4am. We became friends with benefits after we broke up, so technicaly hes cheating on this new person. Anyways, they have only been "together" now for 30 days, but he is already driving to Florida with his new girlfriends family to spend 10 days!! They're driving 20 hours each way from Michigan. Thats 1200 miles one-way. Lots of bonding time. Why am I so jealous and mad?? They're "bonding" while I'm all alone like I never existed? I feel abandoned. My ex says he's "in love with" his new girlfriend (after just 30 days), and that he never loved me... even though he would say "I love you" when we dated. He is 17 and I'm older; however, isnt this one of the most vicious things you've ever heard... "sex with you used to be good at the begining, but then it became disgusting. You have no experience having sex, and you couldnt pay me enough money to have sex with you because you're disgusting. And you're horrible at giving head. Your personality sucks, and you keep your eyes open when you kiss." And this is from someone who KNOWS im "in love with" him, and have been for over a year. Isnt that vicious? You know he's going to call in a few months, around September when his new girlfriend goes off to college, asking to get back together. I dont know WHY he would call, but he will. What would you do if he calls, considering the way he treated me? Would you be jealous & mad? During our most recent relationship he was spending every night with "friends" and i would only see him after 2am when he was drunk. It was like i was his pet dog that he came home to, so-to-speak. So i broke up with him for not spending any time with me, and 5 minutes later he text messages me saying: "i cant lie, i cheated on you last night. please dont hate me." He didnt have to tell me that! He told me that to hurt me. When we were breaking up I told him i wanted to be first place, not second place, and he said "youre more like 5th or 6th place." They've been spending every night sleeping together in the same bed, and having sex every day; however, when I was his girlfriend I never got to do spend the entire night. He wouldnt spend 1 night with me to go to an amusement park 3 hours away , but he has no problem taking 10 days off work to drive 20 hours to florida each way. Why am I so jealous and mad? They're bonding for 10 days having breakfast, lunch, dinner ,and sleeping together,. And theyre spending 40 hours in a car bonding. Thats a LOAD of "together" time. I feel abandoned, like I never existed. He says he never loved me. He only "loves" me as a person, but not romantically. That's why he's doing all this stuff with his new girlfriend and not me. He is 17. You have to keep in mind that this isnt a casual "boyfriend-of-the-month" for me. I fell in love with him and have been over a year. HE asked me to be his girlfriend. Then a few days later I was out. He mistreated me like hell. It's too easy for people to just say "MOVE ON" as if i can just do that... and turn off my love like a light switch. Your thoughts....

Open Question: He cheated on me & then made her his new girlfriend. Would you be jealous & mad if just 30 days later...?

We dated "on-and-off" for a year and he knew i "fell in love with" him. During our most recent relationship he was spending every night with "friends" and i would only have him after 2am when he was drunk. So i broke up with hi mfor not spending any time with me. 5 minutes later he text messages me "i cant lie, i cheated on you last night. please dont hate me." He didnt have to tell me that! He told me to hurt me. Anyways, he cheated on me just less than 24 hours after saying the following: " I would never cheat on you. Cheating is wrong. I would breakup with you first before i ever cheat on you." He was probably already cheating on me WHEN he said that. The very next day he had a new "girlfriend." It was the girl he cheated on me with. When I told him i wanted to be first place, not second place, he said "youre more like 5th or 6th place." Then we had a nargument and he said "sex with you used to be good, but now its disgusting. you have no sex experience. youre horrible at giving head. yo ucouldnt pay me enough to have sex with you because youre disgusting. and i dont give a f*** about you." They've been spending every night sleeping together in the same bed, and having sex every day; however, when I was his girlfriend I never got to do spend the entire night. They've only been "together" for 30 days, but he is driving to Florida with his new girlfriends "family" to spend 10 days. He wouldnt spend 1 night with me to go to an amusement park 3 hours away , but he has no problem taking 10 days off work to drive 20 hours to florida each way. They're driving 20 hours from Michigan. Why am I so jealous and mad? They're bonding for 10 days having breakfast, lunch, dinner ,and sleeping together,. And theyre spending 40 hours in a car bonding. I feel like I'm all alone, abandoned, like I never existed. He says he's "in love with" with his new girlfriend of 30 days, and that he never loved me...only as a person but not romantically. That's why he's doing all this stuff with his new girlfriend and not me. He is 17. You have to keep in mind that this isnt a boyfriend-of-the-month. I fell in love with him for more than a year, and HE asked me to be his girlfriend. Then a few days later I was out. It's too easy for people to coldy say "MOVE ON" like i can just do that and turn off my love like a light switch. Your thoughts....

Open Question: He cheated on me & then made her his new girlfriend. Would you be jealous & mad if just 30 days later...?

We dated "on-and-off" for a year and he knew i "fell in love with" him. During our most recent relationship he was spending every night with "friends" and i would only have him after 2am when he was drunk. So i broke up with hi mfor not spending any time with me. 5 minutes later he text messages me "i cant lie, i cheated on you last night. please dont hate me." He didnt have to tell me that! He told me to hurt me. Anyways, he cheated on me just less than 24 hours after saying the following: " I would never cheat on you. Cheating is wrong. I would breakup with you first before i ever cheat on you." He was probably already cheating on me WHEN he said that. The very next day he had a new "girlfriend." It was the girl he cheated on me with. When I told him i wanted to be first place, not second place, he said "youre more like 5th or 6th place." Then we had a nargument and he said "sex with you used to be good, but now its disgusting. you have no sex experience. youre horrible at giving head. yo ucouldnt pay me enough to have sex with you because youre disgusting. and i dont give a f*** about you." They've been spending every night sleeping together in the same bed, and having sex every day; however, when I was his girlfriend I never got to do spend the entire night. They've only been "together" for 30 days, but he is driving to Florida with his new girlfriends "family" to spend 10 days. He wouldnt spend 1 night with me to go to an amusement park 3 hours away , but he has no problem taking 10 days off work to drive 20 hours to florida each way. They're driving 20 hours from Michigan. Why am I so jealous and mad? They're bonding for 10 days having breakfast, lunch, dinner ,and sleeping together,. And theyre spending 40 hours in a car bonding. I feel like I'm all alone, abandoned, like I never existed. He says he's "in love with" with his new girlfriend of 30 days, and that he never loved me...only as a person but not romantically. That's why he's doing all this stuff with his new girlfriend and not me. He is 17. You have to keep in mind that this isnt a boyfriend-of-the-month. I fell in love with him for more than a year, and HE asked me to be his girlfriend. Then a few days later I was out. It's too easy for people to coldy say "MOVE ON" like i can just do that and turn off my love like a light switch. Your thoughts....

Open Question: He cheated on me & then made her his new girlfriend. Would you be jealous & mad if just 30 days later...?

We dated "on-and-off" for a year and he knew i "fell in love with" him. During our most recent relationship he was spending every night with "friends" and i would only have him after 2am when he was drunk. So i broke up with hi mfor not spending any time with me. 5 minutes later he text messages me "i cant lie, i cheated on you last night. please dont hate me." He didnt have to tell me that! He told me to hurt me. Anyways, he cheated on me just less than 24 hours after saying the following: " I would never cheat on you. Cheating is wrong. I would breakup with you first before i ever cheat on you." He was probably already cheating on me WHEN he said that. The very next day he had a new "girlfriend." It was the girl he cheated on me with. They've been spending every night sleeping together in the same bed, and having sex every day; however, when I was his girlfriend I never got to do spend the entire night. They've only been "together" for 30 days, but he is driving to Florida with his new girlfriends "family" to spend 10 days. He wouldnt spend 1 night with me to go to an amusement park 3 hours away , but he has no problem taking 10 days off work to drive 20 hours to florida each way. They're driving 20 hours from Michigan. Why am I so jealous and mad? They're bonding for 10 days having breakfast, lunch, dinner ,and sleeping together,. And theyre spending 40 hours in a car bonding. I feel like I'm all alone, abandoned, like I never existed. He says he's "in love with" with his new girlfriend of 30 days, and that he never loved me...only as a person but not romantically. That's why he's doing all this stuff with his new girlfriend and not me. He is 17. You have to keep in mind that this isnt a boyfriend-of-the-month. I fell in love with him for more than a year, and HE asked me to be his girlfriend. Then a few days later I was out. It's too easy for people to coldy say "MOVE ON" like i can just do that and turn off my love like a light switch. Your thoughts....

Open Question: He cheated on me & then made her his new girlfriend. Would you be jealous & mad if just 30 days later...?

We dated "on-and-off" for a year and he knew i "fell in love with" him. During our most recent relationship he was spending every night with "friends" and i would only have him after 2am when he was drunk. So i broke up with hi mfor not spending any time with me. 5 minutes later he text messages me "i cant lie, i cheated on you last night. please dont hate me." He didnt have to tell me that! He told me to hurt me. Anyways, he cheated on me just less than 24 hours after saying the following: " I would never cheat on you. Cheating is wrong. I would breakup with you first before i ever cheat on you." He was probably already cheating on me WHEN he said that. The very next day he had a new "girlfriend." It was the girl he cheated on me with. They've been spending every night sleeping together in the same bed, and having sex every day; however, when I was his girlfriend I never got to do spend the entire night. They've only been "together" for 30 days, but he is driving to Florida with his new girlfriends "family" to spend 10 days. He wouldnt spend 1 night with me to go to an amusement park 3 hours away , but he has no problem taking 10 days off work to drive 20 hours to florida each way. They're driving 20 hours from Michigan. Why am I so jealous and mad? They're bonding for 10 days having breakfast, lunch, dinner ,and sleeping together,. And theyre spending 40 hours in a car bonding. I feel like I'm all alone, abandoned, like I never existed. He says he's "in love with" with his new girlfriend of 30 days, and that he never loved me...only as a person but not romantically. That's why he's doing all this stuff with his new girlfriend and not me. He is 17. You have to keep in mind that this isnt a boyfriend-of-the-month. I fell in love with him for more than a year, and HE asked me to be his girlfriend. Then a few days later I was out. It's too easy for people to coldy say "MOVE ON" like i can just do that and turn off my love like a light switch. Your thoughts....

Resolved Question: Who's right, my husband or his mom?

I already asked this question but i didn't put too much details and i got people confused, so i'm going to redo it. His mom has been begging us to go to Florida to visit her for about 1 1/2. She's come here 2 times (our wedding, great-grandma's death). But the reason we haven't been able to go is because we've been struggling financially and we've been living off check by check and we have a kid too. So, his mom recently told us she was going to pay for everything if we go and she said she was going to take us Everywhere! Anyway, The trip was planned for June 15 BUT we just sold a beach house (not the house we are living in right now) that we had in the market forever so she knows we are going to get money from it. Initially, my husband wasn't going to pay for anything but then I GUESS he decided to pay for the gas and the hotel where we are going to stay for 1 day on the way back. But now his mom is trying to make him pay for the rental car (which we need) and some other things because she said she's going over the budget and knows we are getting money from the house and so my husband is MAD because he said this trip was something special she was doing for him since she hasn't taken care of him since he was 15 and made his life a living hell. She's kind of going crazy with this trip and she is spending a lot of money like she's going to meet us at Charlottesville (that's our 1st stop) since she hasn't been there and she wants to rent 4 bedrooms in a bed and breakfast place and so my husband told her that the idea was to visit her not to waste money so he told her maybe she should cancel some of the places she was going to take us so she doesn't spend too much money ( Btw, she does have a decent amount of money). Anyway, I'm 50/50 in this one because i understand where he's coming from and where she's coming from. What do you think?

Resolved Question: Would this be considered depression (pretty long)?

Everyone feels a little sad every now and then right? Especially for no apperant reason? Thats the case ive been having.. its been happening every other day for the past few weeks. And I cant seem to pinpoint why, I dont have any real reason to be feeling this way.. atleast I think. Now that I look back and think about it, anytime ive ever felt this way its always been an "outta the blue" sorta thing.. And the things that happen in life which I guess would normally make anyone feel sad dont seem to phase me. Like death.. Between my great grandmother and grandmother dying, the suicides of people I worked with and knew pretty well.. Ive felt nothing. Or even when close friends and family move away or in this case, me moving to where I virtually have no family around me at all, doesnt phase me. Like my brother, when he moved to georgia it didnt bother one bit.. And when he came back for a year and left again it still didnt effect me. Infact, I couldnt wait for him to leave.. My brothers been a bit of a dick, still tho.. I believe hes a good person.. But ive been living in florida for over 3 yrs, hes just 6 hours down the road and I have never visited him. Yet ill travel 18 hours back to NJ every year. Ive only ever talked to him on the phone like 3 or 4 times. The conversation is always very short & to the point (hey, how ya doin, bye..) Same with my sister, I dont feel like talkin to her either. I have nothing against them.. i just dont feel like being around them.. Also, ive been loosing interests in the things I normally do. After work ill go home, sit down.. and just stare at things, for hours.. while my mind draws a blank.. then ill go to bed and do it all over again. It sounds like boredem but at the same time something doesnt feel right. When my phone rings ill just stare at it. Or wont reply back to a txt I recieved. Ive been having alot of nightmares lately too.. The most recent one I can think of was that I dreamt that I was in bed and found that my door was open, but it was very dark inside the room and out of it aswell.. I closed the door and started gasping. It was eerily quite in the room and when I turned and looked at the clock it was blank. All I saw was ( : ) there was no numbers.. just that colon. Yet it still gave a glow as if it WAS on.. I started breathing harder and harder.. And then I woke up. It may not sound very much like a nightmare but it all felt very real. On another note I havent been eating on some days either. Our chow hall opens up periodically throughout the day for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.. What ends up happening tho is ill just stare at the clock from opening till closing.. I know im hungry, and im thinking to myself that I need to eat. But I dont.. I could always go out and get something to eat later on but I dont even do that... Things just seem.. really gloomy lately, black and white kinda...

Resolved Question: are any of these books funny?

i need a funny book for a theatre thing i am doing. these are some books i found on websites that people said were funny. tell me what u think and if u have suggestions. also if you know some of them are in first person (and are funny) tell me. Round Ireland With a Fridge The Pleasure of my Company Sex and Sunsets A Year in the Merde Then We Came to the End Truth or Dairy A Semester in the Life of a Garbage Bag Absolutely Normal Chaos Who Put that Hair in my Toothbrush? Three Clams and an Oyster Forrest Gump The Girls' Guide to Hunting and Fishing The Good Times Are Killing Me Make Way for Lucia Thank You for Smoking Crazy in Alabama The Country Life Auntie Mame Florida Roadkill The Snapper Diary of an Emotional Idiot Bridget Jones' Diary Cold Comfort Farm Switcheroo Travels With My Aunt Home to Harmony Lucky Stars Bath Tangle Bridge of Birds: A Novel of an Ancient China that Never Was About a Boy Three Men in a Boat (To Say Nothing of the Dog) Lake Wobegon Summer 1956 Patty Jane's House of Curl The Nanny Diaries Somebody's Darling The Ladies of Covington Send Their Love Lamb: The Gospel According to Biff, Christ's Childhood Pal The Mammy A Short History of a Small Place Joe College Bachelor Brothers' Bed & Breakfast Fierce Invalids Home from Hot Climates Miss Julia Speaks Her Mind The Education of H*Y*M*A*N K*A*P*L*A*N Straight Man The Evolution of Jane Holidays On Ice Sunburn Wanda Hickey's Night of Golden Memories, and Other Disasters Moo The Adrian Mole Diaries Tepper Isn't Going Out The Accidental Tourist The Loved One Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood Quite a Year for Plums The Code of the Woosters A Man in Full Wild Meat and the Bully Burgers Animal Husbandry and when i say funny i mean like funny dialogue, not a funny plot.

Resolved Question: Girls/Guys...Not so Fairy Tale Love Story...What should I do?

This is going to be really long so please if you are going to say mean things about it being long don't bother reading it. This is where it all stared...... About Five years ago i met this guy online (AIM) we talked everyday then we started to talk on the phone. He lives in California and i live in Florida. We talked for about 2 months before deciding that we would concider ourselves a couple. We dated for over two years. We kept good to our word we never cheated and we spent most of our days talking together. I was so in love i couldnt stand not being able to hold him and feel his warmth. Finally summer came and i was going on vacation. Every summer i spend a week in St. Augustine at a bed and breakfast and this summer i wanted him to meet me there so we could finally meet. I asked him everyday and he said he didnt know. He would just have to take off work. But finally when it came to the day he said that he couldnt go. Did he not want to go, or could he not? I asked him about it all the time and he decided that we should stop talking after 2 1/2 years he just wants to leave. So we split...... A year later i met this guy he is amazing we have been together for almost two years, we even bought a house together. But i still cant stop thinking about my ex in California. I called him the other day i couldnt stop thinking about him. We have been texting for 3 days now. I dont know what to do i am still in love with him. but i love my boyfriend right now. Today..... I asked my ex in California if i could come see him this weekend i want to take a shopping trip and i wanted to see him. My mind thinks that if i get to see him i will finally know what i want. But again he said that he doesnt know, just like a couple of summers ago. I know that i will not do exaclty what people tell me to do its up to my heart but i want peoples opinion...Please i really need help! Thank you So much!!!